Friday Forgiveness

Am almost towards the end of 'How to Have a Meaning Conversation'  I managed to connect with the author via LinkedIn.  super impressed and pumped up about it.

I am not so harsh on myself.  I am able to work away, tick along few activities.  Managed to submit expense claims - not that I had to put it here but it feels like an achievement!

Today, I thought I will write what the Monk said about Forgiveness.  

 Thanks to Gehse-la Sherab for the talk on Forgiveness at Wagga Wagga

It is very important in spiritual path to be kind and compassionate.  find peace through forgiveness!  We are able to create better environment to solve conflict problem we have with each other.  to find a better way to solve.  To resolve anger feeling towards each other.  

We learn to forgive ourselves and others.  Only fully enlightened one do not make mistakes.  Aim to achieve the highest realizing.  Mind free from delusions.  Learn from mistakes, not be harsh.  Learn to let it go - bitterness, anger!  Be gentle, kind to oneself and others.  this will help our mind be calm, enjoy life, better physical health.  through forgiveness the space for love and compassion grows.  Resentment, anger, bitterness - there is no space of love and compassion.  The negative feelings don't' allow space for love and compassion.   

TO be able to forgive, one important thing is to understand everyone makes mistakes – not intentionally.  The reason why we make mistake is not being an enlightened one.  Accept and understand this will help.  We expect ourselves to be perfect.  Who doesn’t make mistakes?  Try to do your best!  Recognize and it will be easier to have the forgiveness.  We hurt or offend – not because we want to.  Intention, action is important.  Action – way we try to help.  Need the right skillful needs.  Understanding to help, to let it go.  Forgiveness is releasing he negative feeling for others or oneself.  Forgiveness is releasing the negative feelings.  We hurt and harm or damage or suffer ourselves more!

 

More than anyone you are doing a favour for yourself!  By forgiving you release your pain and suffering sooner you are able to release, the less painful it is!  B forgiving you are free form the anger, hurt, resentment you open yourself for love, compassion.  Your mind becomes more open to receiving love, compassion from others.  If you are not able to let, go of the past – mind stuck in the past – it is not forgiving – you do not find peace and happiness.  Live our daily life with a calm mind – develop these inner qualities. 

Forgiving oneself and other

Like many other virtues of the mind, learn to forgive.  When life is easy, it is easy to be kind, compassionate, be playful and be kind. 

When there is a problem – mind starts to attack.

Be more kind, compassionate and forgiving.

When difficult times arise and you are kind, compassionate – it is a sign of your virtues.  Success through forgiveness.  Find peace despite the difficulty in life.  Keeping mind peaceful, calm, and happy due to being able to forgive.  When you are able to forgive, even your enemy becomes your friend. 

 

Transformation through forgiveness.  Ability to forgive.  Bring people closer.  Mahatma Gandhi said, “Forgiveness is a sign of strength and not weakness.”  Stand without any anger or bitterness!  Have success because of forgiveness.  Forgiveness is an attitude, something you practise.  Patience, compassion and forgiveness – these leaders are the ones that inspire. 

 

Internal prison – resentment and bitterness.  There is no space or happiness with internal prison.  Put what you have learnt into practise when emotions over power – we are not happy with what with what we do – guilty shame – that moment – you lost your mind that moment – emotions triggered 

 

Tips that might be helpful to let it go, release, and forgive

Deep breathing

Watch your breath

Decide and make strong determination to let it go – bitterness, resentment

Understand form their point of view

Where they are coming from, even though you may not agree with their action

How can we be a better person and happy rather than holding on that anger and resentment. 

Reflect, contemplate, understand.

State of mind.  Learn to release, let it go

Consciously rejoice your virtues and virtues of others.